I just learned something really interesting, something I never really thought about.
There are other feelings behind anger.
I’m sitting with our youngest child and our therapist talking about why he gets so mad when he’s studying for spelling and taking his spelling tests. She shows us a poster that has an angry face in the middle and a number of different faces all around it. Some are frustrated, embarrassed, worried, sad, and disappointed.
So it makes me wonder What is he trying to tell me when he’s angry? All I do is react to the anger with anger. But really what I should do is dig deeper and help him articulate the feelings behind his anger. And then think about the feelings I have behind my anger. It’s quite possible we are having the same feelings!
My mind is officially blown!
